As they get older, most parents agree that it’s hard to find too many kids that would say they like school. It’s hard work, and it can be stressful. However, if your child seems to hate it with a passion and wants to avoid it as much as possible, that can be a problem.
Every parent should try to ensure that their child is engaged in their education. If yours seems to be the exact opposite and you feel like “my kid hates school”, here are three ways you should think of tackling the problem.
#1 – Get more involved
Different kids learn best in different ways. Unfortunately, not every teacher can adequately handle the needs of every individual child in their class. There will be some who just don’t get motivated to learn and don’t get engaged in the class. If that seems to be your child, then you can help by supplementing their education at home.
Help them excel in school by going over the work they’ve done on the day, making sure they’ve understood and are able to learn the lessons imparted in the class. Encourage them to read, help them find programs outside of the school to help them learn, and get them into the habit of homework by doing it with them, initially.
#2 – Take a deeper look
There are some occasions where their behavior goes beyond simply not engaging with the work, however. For some kids, the pressure of not performing or not enjoying the learning environment can be too much. They may be dealing with anxiety or trying everything they can to avoid going to school, even taking regular trips to the school nurse when there’s nothing wrong with them.
If you’re concerned that your child is putting a little too much effort to avoid the classroom, you may want to contact Compass Health Center about school refusal. Their emotional health may not be in a healthy place, and they could have deep fears or mood swings when faced with the very idea of school. If that’s the case, a little help mentally could help get back in the swing of things.
Also, try to develop a mindset that helps you understand and maybe even challenge the modern education system every now and then: The problem may very well not be your kid, but the way our society works. By that I mean your kid may, for instance, be an incredible tinkerer, but its teachers may be just judging them by there math skills. Just recently I came across the video below, and if you can develop THAT mindset, it will incredibly boost your kid’s motivation!
#3 – Help them balance it out
For others, the problem is that they are coping with the stresses of school without any relief. Your child may be studious, attentive, and hard-working, but just like adults in the workplace, they can burn themselves out if they go a little too hard on their work.
If that seems like the case, then you may want to check out my article about How To Spend Quality Time With Your Child or see We Have Kids for ideas on how to help them bust a little stress and add a bit more balance to their lives. Or, as a small relief try out ABCmouse.
Physical activity and creative hobbies both allow your child to express themselves and work off that tension, making them less prone to bouts of aggression and sullenness.
There’s no denying that school is demanding and tough, especially when you enter a new year with a fuller curriculum and higher demands. If your child seems to be having that much more difficult than the others, however, it’s safe to assume they could use some help.
Now it’s your turn: What do you think about the topic? Where did you and your kids struggle? And how did you help them? What worked well and what did not? Leave a comment below and let us discuss this important issue.
Thanks for stopping by and reading this article.
Josh – Contributing Author
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I think becoming involved in what they do and their curriculums is important. It will let a parent see what type of learning ‘burden’ the child is facing everyday and help them cope in a practically manner. School should be enjoyable. It’s the only time that children gets to become who they are and groom themselves into adulthood.
I totally agree. And that is not only limited to school, in my opinion. I think parents should always try to stay involved in what their kids do and what they enjoy etc. It creates an open mindset for both, parents and kids and allows them to stay in touch rather than disconnect. And it helps parents and kids to enjoy the same stuff (in this case school) together. I cherish that idea 🙂
All the best to you and your loved ones,
Thanks Chris for this wonderful information, most parents don’t know how to make their kids like school, that even happened to me when I was still studying in college as I never wanted to go back to school.
I think parents should take an intiative to involve themselves in the kids education as its number one priority for their success.
Hi Angie and thanks a lot for taking the time to leave a comment. Glad you liked the article and agree with my points. All the best to you and your family, chris